You are who your are, or are you?
Just be yourself. Fears,doubts and insecurities are all around us, outside and inside of us. Sometimes it may even seem easier to “just want to be someone else” as we wrap ourselves up in these negative feelings. The grass may appear much greener on the other side based on our perceptions and ideas. Which may or may not be slanted in the right direction, based on the past or current experiences we have had. The reality is often the exact opposite and others are more afraid than we are.
What if the person you think has everything going for them looks in the mirror and hates the way they smile, or how large they think their eyes are? What if everyone else in their family has brown eyes and they are made to feel out of place for having blue ones? If the messages they have heard from family, friends or loved ones has always been negative regarding a certain characteristic or feature, their self-esteem will have taken solid hits from that.
Maybe other are not so confident either
It’s comical how others are envied for superficial beauty, wealth or relationships that people would fight to trade places with them because many of them are looking at us and thinking the same thing. You appear as the smartest person around and they wish they had the same people or conversation skills that you do. That feeling of quiet desperation to “be someone else” results in the lack of confidence, low self-esteem and any hope that we can ever improve our situations in life.
This is a perception and not your reality. Rather than spend your life wringing your hands about who you can’t be, or what you don’t have in it, concentrate on finding out how to make things better for yourself. Ask questions and find solutions to how to be a better person and to accept yourself for who you are. You can always learn new skills, ask trusted friends or advisers for areas they think you could improve in and how.
Just because that’s the way “you have always been” doesn’t mean that’s the way you must always remain. Taking steps to self-improvement can open up new doors of experiences and opportunities for you. Then you can, in turn, inspire and motivate others.
Get rid of the regrets in your conversations with yourself and focus on being a first class citizen in your own mind. Accept yourself for who you are, improve what and where you can and stop constantly comparing yourself to others. All of us will always be insecure at times but that doesn’t have to be a life sentence for being unhappy. Loving ourselves no matter what begins with the act of self-acceptance. Once we achieve that, contentment will follow.
How To change your focus to reduce stress and be yourself
As much as stress is witnessed in a large portion of our lives, is it important that we practice and appreciate some of the best possible ways to help us calm down the nerves. Stress can manifest itself in many ways causing physical, emotional, or even mental issues. It is therefore very critical for stress victims to recognize the source of anxiety and find the optimal approach to either minimize or end it.
Choosing what your focus your attention on, together with stress management, can help you achieve the much needed balance. And although most stress reduction techniques are subjective; meaning that what may work for you may not work for another, changing your focus can work for almost anyone. This technique basically uses the power of the mind to achieve a specific outcome where the conscious and subconscious thoughts are put into focus – It is simply using our thoughts to attract what we want.
There are four steps to be followed when using this technique to reduce or end stress:
1. Focus on what you want
This is achieved by focusing on your life and find out the main cause of stress. Is it your partner? School? Work? Would you do a different job to have a piece of mind? – You should focus on what you really want and have a rough sketch of how you are going to achieve that.
2. Ask what you want
Once your focus is on whatever it is that you want, it is now the time to put the power of your mind to work. Let the universe and the energy of your thoughts work together; Choose a different partner, apply for a better pay job, ask for a raise, or you can explore your talent. Let the people feel and know your desire.
3. Visualize whatever you want
To visualize whatever you want is to feel, behave, and act as if you already have what you desire. Positive thinking is critical in this technique; negativity and fear should not be within you. Your general outlook should be optimistic then relaxation will follow. Pessimism and doubt should be avoided to have the law work according to plan. What you focus on is what you will get from this. Focus on the negative and you will get the negative. Focus on the positive and you will get positivity.
4. Let go your preconceptions
You never know; there may be another way to reduce your stress level that you’ve never thought of. It is for this reason that you should always remain open for other outcomes to improve your life. This can mean extra cash from working overtime, getting another job, or even getting your superior’s job.
Focusing on the positive and just be yourself. This is often used together with other stress relief options in order to effectively gain the desired outcome. The power of positive thinking is a very powerful option.